What was the most intense thing that your narc/bpd did to show you that you were on the pedestal?

I recall, I rescued my wife a great deal when we dated. I didn't recognize it as recusing, I just thought that I was helping with putting things together, killing bugs, and so forth.

Well, one day, I had done some type of manly task for her and got a mild cut my hand. She asked to see my hand, and she took it, and held it like it was precious. Then she held my hand up and licked blood from my hand and looked at me with her blue eyes beaming. I was instantly hooked. I'd never seen anything like that before in my life.
She licked up my blood. I never dreamed that there was a woman out there that would do that.

I can't tell if you are serious, but I've seen others here say they felt like their blood was sucked dry emotionally and financially, when their npd was throughn with them.

You might be unique in having that experience, if you are serious.

My wife would just say, get over it...

Not to change the subject but I remember when she was done with me, she begin to ask me questions about toxic behavior that she was doing to me, knowing that I didn't know, and one of the questions was do you know what Love bombing is (and then other behavior I had to learn about)? smh It's sad that these people know what there doing. I just wanted to share.


"Crazy people know they crazy, they just don't want you to know they crazy"
Gabe...

My ex would act like she was my mother to a certain extent. Being very protective and looking after me and doing everything for me. Also in between the strange episodes be very affectionate and loving. Telling me she loved me about 100 times a day and constantly hugging ad kissing me. As soon as she done something wrong and I dare mentionable word she'd either shout and hit me or blank me and walk away.
The loving parts like yours are so intense you feel wow I can't believe someone loves me this much. What I can't get my head around is, is the love real because when they are bad they are so selfish and mean but then have the hypocrisy to call you all those names.

Paul,
You ended you post by saying your wife would tell you " get over it". Only just recently my wife would say the exact thing to me. She would do something or say something to hurt me on purpose, or just be plain selfish and mean and when I would question it or wanted to discuss this behavior this would be the common answer "get over it". Like I don't have to explain anything to you or you don't deserve an answer. The commonalities everyone here has shared is first;
eye opening then scary because this is not as unique as I thought, and many people are going through this and there are many of these types of women out there.

Thank you Jack I will pick up the book.