Since splitting with my emotionally abusive, self obsessed /prone to depression x girlfriend, I still feel anger and humiliation at my having been so blind and opened up and trusted a person who treated me so terribly,

I will never understand why she felt it necessary to call me names like 'stupid' ,'pathetic', 'Psycho' and 'piece of ****'- I never once spoke to her in such a disrespectful way. She claimed her last few relationships she was abused- maybe it was the only way she was used to expressing herself? She had depression, and seemed to blame me for it- because I couldnt make her happy, somehow i was defective. She kept bringing up the fact her x was rich, and would mention out of the blue she was not a gold digger. Funny then how 100% of the time whenever we went out i got stuck with the bill. im a teacher, hardly rich- and I suspect when she realized how little money i had she started to get really hostile and call me names. This is the kind of behavior one might expect from an immature teenager- but from an adult?

After we split, she wrecked my friendships with people we both knew by her claiming I abused her, when it was the opposite. I feel there is no way in hell I will ever open up to a woman again. I'd rather be lonely as a single person than miserable with an abusive person.

If you dated or were married to a woman who tormented you onja daily basis- and split up- were you able to date again and meet sane woman, are are you off on dating?

How can i put my mistrust and anger behind me?

In one word Yes

MGTOW

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DiIvj6DB1oI&list=UUrEtDxWkIa6YTyTLDqKdqUw

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFyVZpjOkks


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To get better one heeds to understand what happened.


Take care

Charles,

Still together here, so no advice on that front.

But for your ex : if she kept bringing up her ex's riches, she already proved right there that she is a gold digger. Her saying she's not, is just a cover-up to make it not so obvious.

Like we say here : women and theater, they go hand in hand.

As for her victimizing : what is more convincing to defend against future abuse accusations, than claiming first that you are an abuse victim? She was just quicker on the ball than you, and created the first impression for the bystanders. It's a classic defense of abusers, and you've gone through the textbook treatment.

Same thing about her story of abuse from her ex : probably she did the same to him, and he had the balls to throw her out.

I hope that you see now that her only interest in you was to get a provider; someone to back her up in all circumstances, and give her everything she would ever need. Basically: a child, looking for a parent. All the rest was just theater to get to that goal. Once she realized that that was not in the cards, she immediately started discarding you.

You've learned an important lesson, consider yourself lucky to be out of there.

And enjoy your freedom for a good while; if you get into another relationship too soon, it is bound to be with a similar person; and the whole charade will re-run from the start again.


Jack

This week I met a woman who was nice, attractive, shared similar interests and after a lengthy friendly conversation offered me her phone number she'd love to talk again

I later tore the number up- Im not going down the road to pain and anguish again

Responding to an older thread, hope it's OK.

I was divorced 5 years ago this past November. It's been mighty peaceful these years, a huge change from when I was "evil, deceitful, extremely selfish, a hypocrite and a molester of the kitty cat". All of that not true and especially that last.

I've been in no hurry even to date again, my last efforts in that department having produced rather less than desirable results.