i guess i am luckier than many of u out there, cuz my ex (dumped me almost 2 months ago) is not really attractive anyway (altho he is to ME), & he has said he definitely doesn't want another woman. which i believe, cuz he has like a really low sex drive, which was unfortunate for me with my high libido. so altho yeah i still sometimes drive myself crazy imagining him with someone, i really know that ain't happening (at least not now, not yet). god, he just called me again a little while ago - i was strong & didn't pick up - yay for me!
god, u poor girl at the university there - i really feel for u!!! be strong, sister!!! i know, u gotta like put on this big ACT, just to get thru the ****. my heart goes out to u.
in the beginning of our breakup, i ****ed up & kept trying to get him back. but now i am using the tool of No Contact (which i understand is not an option for u, unfortunately). all i can say is that every day the pain WILL lessen. i know these are sorta cliches, but - keep busy, work on yourself - do things to make yourself feel attractive & good about yourself, check out tons of pertinent books from the library (i've got like 10 of them! would be happy to recommend titles that have helped me), go on all these kool breakup websites! i'm here to help if i can, dear sister . . . .