Re: Re: Is is only women that have a hard time with breakups?
Im going thru a breakup at the moment, & trust me I know as a woman its an ugly ugly feeling inside. I think because we tend to get very emotionally involved and comfortable with our relationship it shocks you that its all ended. You go thru the what happened? how? why? trust issues, promises broken, and in the end your heart is left to mend in silence.
I have kept my dignity during this whole mess, I say mess because despite being 9months since he left, not a day goes by where he does not contact me somehow. I never respond to emails or txt msgs because he left me. I have never been nasty to him nor have i stalked him early hours of the morning - i just think that accepting that you are no longer the center of his universe helps you to understand him more.
Theres nothing more unattractive than a whinging woman or a scorned woman taggin along to every event he's at or calling him begging etc...its not a nice impression.
The reason why i replied to this post is that i know as much as we hurt as women, the man does too.
If he didnt hurt - he wouldnt email me or txt or call everyday since leaving - he was involved too, and if you had a great relationship like we did, of course his heart would break. But after the deed has been done (breakup) we have to move on without them, its not always our choice - but what is ours to choose, is the way we feel inside, and trust me. My ex was my world, and inside i love him dearly but there was a reason why he left and i cant change that so i will choose to move on with my dignity and wish him the best of luck with his future.
Just know - you are not alone, and that you will heal - believe in yourself, your worth it!