SUPPORT FOR HETEROSEXUAL MEN WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED AT THE HANDS OF WOMEN ! ( EMOTIONALLY, PHYSCIALLY, FINANCIALLY, OR OTHERWISE ) AND THE DISCUSSION OF PERSONALITY DISORDERS AS IT HAS BECOME INCREASINGLY DIFFICULT FOR US TO GET HELP

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Jack the younger

Being a better dad, and simplifying life (against your wife's orders)

Hi all, I had a lightbulb moment tonight. I was woken by my 7-year old daughter at 2 am, because of fear of the dark. I brought her back to her bed and she fell asleep while I was at her bedside, but she stood at my bed again 30 minutes later, because of a nig...

Views: 325 Replies: 17

Last Post: Jul 30, 2014 11:31pm
by Jack the younger

CHUMP

If you insist on staying.....

Try this.... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsPnQyn8U40 It actually does work but it drains you.

Views: 134 Replies: 0

Last Post: Jul 30, 2014 11:03pm
by CHUMP

Otey

someone please help

I have been married to a younger woman for 18 years and the abuse have been the worst thing I have ever experienced.I told her a lot about my life and she uses anything she can to put me down and keep me down.She started out seperating me from my Family and Friends a...

Views: 206 Replies: 5

Last Post: Jul 30, 2014 2:01pm
by mark

Charles

Verbally abusive girlfriend engaged in projection

My relationship of 3 months with a 35 year old woman (Im a 45 year old man) ended last night- thank god, I feel like I escaped from living hell. I am trying to make sense of my X's irrational behavior and emotional abuse- it was so unwarranted and made no sense. Im g...

Views: 244 Replies: 8

Last Post: Jul 30, 2014 1:06pm
by mark

terry

been narc free since 2012

hey guy\\\'s just wanted to stop in and say hello. most of you don\\\'t know me. I\\\'m an old student from this site and it\\\'s nice to see this site doing good after all this time. I owe a lot to this site for helping me get through the situation with my narc. we...

Views: 113 Replies: 2

Last Post: Jul 28, 2014 10:52pm
by Jack the younger

Gabe

Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths: Sam Vaknin

Date from Hell: Dating Narcissists and Psychopaths https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQc8kSYQqAY

Views: 98 Replies: 0

Last Post: Jul 22, 2014 2:54pm
by Gabe

startrek

Getting Help

Hi, I haven't been here in a long time, but I just want everyone to know this. My wife is probably a BPD, but is undiagnosed. I've been involved with a website called bpdfamily.com where there are many people with similar problems that we have and the discus...

Views: 98 Replies: 1

Last Post: Jul 21, 2014 12:25am
by Jack the younger

The New Me

Valuable advice for co-dependants and abused

http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/parents-empowering-themselves-for-their-childrens-sake/ and some sound thoughts on looking after yourself http://www.maryplaza.com/egodeath.html

Views: 138 Replies: 1

Last Post: Jul 21, 2014 12:17am
by Jack the younger

CHUMP

Think of it this way...

\\\"But the man who is convinced of his own worthlessness will be drawn to a women he despises -- because she will reflect his own secret self, she will release him from the objective reality in which he is a fraud, she will give him a momentary illusion of his own v...

Views: 91 Replies: 1

Last Post: Jul 18, 2014 11:08pm
by CHUMP

juakel

Samsung Simlock Calculator Version 0.9-4shared.zip

Samsung Simlock Calculator Version 0.9-4shared.zip > http://urlin.us/0fh2t Samsung Simlock Calculator Version 0.9-4shared.zip, ore no imouto maker ex portable psp iso 97ffa81d91 english language pack for re...

Views: 1369 Replies: 0

Last Post: Jul 15, 2014 5:42pm
by juakel

Brandi

I am a child of a narcissistic needing advice.

I am 15 year old female (I know that this site says men, but I need advice) and my mom is narcissistic. I live with my father now, moved before my 15th birthday. I love my mom and I watched all these videos and now... I am so jumbled in the mind, I know my mom is a n...

Views: 256 Replies: 5

Last Post: Jul 10, 2014 11:12am
by MIke@SacTown

Ken

Problems with Family

Ok. So, I have known a bit about toxic and disfunctional women for some time. I am divorced and do not talk to my ex for no contact. I live a fairly stable life and am mostly unaffected by her or some other narcs that I have to deal with. I invited my sister to c...

Views: 105 Replies: 3

Last Post: Jul 8, 2014 11:19pm
by Jack the younger

The New me

Bloody good Vids

This guy has some sound videos - just a few are linked but it's worth a browse Dont get fooled again https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1YUkv86n1Hc Narcissists: Battle Them or Walk Away? The Samurai Strategy of Musashi https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eqy...

Views: 115 Replies: 0

Last Post: Jun 30, 2014 5:33am
by The New me

CHUMP

dam.....i like this song.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UwqlOqL6IzQ

Views: 124 Replies: 0

Last Post: Jun 23, 2014 7:48pm
by CHUMP

Jack the younger

Turnaround?

Hi all, I think I hit a turning point in my relationship with my wife, and I need to go over this to recap. I had a discussion with her a few days ago, why we never have (and will have) sex anymore. And it turned out "because she feels bad" about me, not sup...

Views: 419 Replies: 24

Last Post: Jun 21, 2014 1:35am
by CHUMP

Gabe

This is Narc behavior right?

I befriended a female last month and over the weekend she told me that she was in a two year relationship where she got tried lying to her ex about somethings , and she cheated on her ex with her ex ex (The Guy Before Him) and eventually dumped her ex. The Thing is t...

Views: 169 Replies: 2

Last Post: Jun 19, 2014 10:00am
by Gabe

The New Me

Wrestling With Pigs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Io15t9V5bXc worth a view.

Views: 72 Replies: 0

Last Post: Jun 18, 2014 7:34am
by The New Me

NoLongerBeaten

The Impact of Parents on NPD's

For those of you who knew your NPD's parents, did their parents seem to want to be the center of their lives? Did they try to control the lives of their NPD Adult Children and forever seem to be dangling money in front of them? Did they belittle and criticize their...

Views: 111 Replies: 1

Last Post: Jun 16, 2014 4:12am
by The New Me

CHUMP

deja vu all over again

Mine was more disturbed than an F5 too! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIB1nQGZVx8

Views: 128 Replies: 0

Last Post: Jun 14, 2014 10:09am
by CHUMP

Mark (upper case)

The Zombies - She's Not There

This covers it http://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=f5IRI4oHKNU

Views: 96 Replies: 2

Last Post: Jun 13, 2014 4:16am
by The New Me

MIke@SacTown

Sometimes I think I was the problem.

Here is an interesting video by Sam Vaknin. As I watched it I realized that I am not sorry for things I've done. I sometimes wonder if I'm the one to blame. I think I am. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipeAbT6kiW8

Views: 291 Replies: 7

Last Post: Jun 12, 2014 7:03pm
by MIke@SacTown

Gabe

Pathological Lying

Do you think that this is a disorder? or Something that toxic people know that they are doing?

Views: 177 Replies: 4

Last Post: Jun 12, 2014 5:27am
by The New Me

Sammy

Hello all

Hey guys, I just wanted to pop on and say hi, its been awhile. I had a nightmare about my ex out of no-where last night and I don't know why. I dreamt she was chasing me, then force feeding me something..

Views: 120 Replies: 3

Last Post: Jun 8, 2014 8:49pm
by gordon

CHUMP

Best advice for dealing with a crazy......

“If you saw Atlas, the giant who holds the world on his shoulders, if you saw that he stood, blood running down his chest, his knees buckling, his arms trembling but still trying to hold the world aloft with the last of his strength, and the greater his effort...

Views: 194 Replies: 7

Last Post: Jun 7, 2014 5:34am
by Mark (upper case...

CHUMP

healin takes time

"Nothing" Cried all night when you told me that I'd lost you I died inside as I watched you walk away And all this time I didn't doubt your reasons But I can't heal what you can't replace But now I sleep like a baby, And all my dreams come true 'Cause the rest...

Views: 109 Replies: 1

Last Post: Jun 7, 2014 5:21am
by Mark (upper case...

NoLongerBeaten

Narcissistic Parents

I have had a great deal of anguish over the last couple of years with my parents. They are both narcs, and they have had very hard lives. They are 82 now, and my mom has cancer, and my dad has chronic liver disease. Growing up with them, I was endlessly belittle...

Views: 145 Replies: 5

Last Post: Jun 3, 2014 7:14pm
by NoLongerBeaten

Gabe

W. Keith Campbell: The Narcissism Epidemic

I great video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iv2LkAWc7Tk

Views: 72 Replies: 0

Last Post: May 27, 2014 4:27am
by Gabe

NoLongerBeaten

Overcoming the flesh

It seems to me that the biggest hold our narcs get over us is the sex and love bombing. It's all about hooking us by how they made us "feel." If you really look at narcs, what makes them tick is their appearance, money, status, popularity, and sexual seduction....

Views: 219 Replies: 8

Last Post: May 27, 2014 12:04am
by Jack the younger

CHUMP

how it has worked out for me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAeSTsDc4qE .

Views: 68 Replies: 0

Last Post: May 23, 2014 9:02pm
by CHUMP

Original Chris

After a long absence, im back with updates and need some advice from old friends.

Hey guys. Some of you may remember me when I went through my year long struggle with my ex. I broke free but I find myself in a strange state these days even though its been many months that passed. After I broke free from her and the pain that was causing me to g...

Views: 181 Replies: 10

Last Post: May 23, 2014 6:38pm
by NoLongerBeaten

Awaken

Nick the New Guy

So I have recently had what I can only describe as an existential crisis, realizing why all of my successes have turned into failures, why I can't value any accomplishments, and why it is a relief to return to a war torn country verse being in my home. I am exhauste...

Views: 124 Replies: 5

Last Post: May 23, 2014 11:06am
by HealingWell

Neil Rose

Another put down

Our daughers misplaced the new Kindle. My wife is stressed and concerned. I have been at work all day and I am helping to find the device. When the girls find it in the bathroom. My wife is in the process of taking the children to bed, her bed not mine, and she ca...

Views: 117 Replies: 1

Last Post: May 21, 2014 12:00am
by Jack the younger

Gabe

Why so long?

If Narc know that at one point and time they will discard you, how do some many men find themselves in long marriages? (Like for 12 years and what not?) is it because the view you as the best source of supply? And Lastly do Narc Marry for money or control?

Views: 202 Replies: 12

Last Post: May 20, 2014 4:28am
by Gabe

CHUMP

shoulda done this!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YkgNjKfFynM

Views: 85 Replies: 1

Last Post: May 18, 2014 11:40pm
by Jack the younger

NoLongerBeaten

Am I right or am I just bitter?

I was listening a bit to an Eminem CD that my wife really likes. Every other word on the songs was "f" this or some kind of swearing. He was also rapping about women sucking softballs through garden hoses. Well, I can appreciate this as much as the next person....

Views: 83 Replies: 1

Last Post: May 18, 2014 11:35pm
by Jack the younger

coumadin

Poisoners...

Hi all, I am a new member here. I wonder if any have experienced being poisoned by their mate. After all, throughout history it is the females who are known for committing this crime against men more frequently then the other way around. It happened to me and th...

Views: 303 Replies: 7

Last Post: May 13, 2014 6:31pm
by gordon

CHUMP

How it goes.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjkLf_X88WM

Views: 89 Replies: 3

Last Post: May 12, 2014 12:07am
by Jack the younger

Gabe

Some Good Videos

The Sociopath Next Door (Introduction) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aFVrvoYTGu0 It is Now Time to Walk Out of Hell (Thomas Sheridan Lecture) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZJvk8b4OTQ

Views: 105 Replies: 0

Last Post: May 7, 2014 3:47am
by Gabe

NoLongerBeaten

Seriously, Are They Evil?

When I think of the emotional mess my wife put me through for years, I can't help but wonder if there isn't some dark evil in them. She knows when I am pulling away, and she puts on the charm and lures me back in. It's like she has some type of radar sensor. I...

Views: 253 Replies: 12

Last Post: May 6, 2014 11:57pm
by Jack the younger

Brian

Publicly Outed My NPD Ex.

I have been in a relationship with a NPD for about a year and a half. I really have no idea why she chose me, other than the knowledge of my childhood. I do understand that they check us out thoroughly, before love bombing us. Here's a few excerpts from my story....

Views: 145 Replies: 2

Last Post: May 6, 2014 7:47pm
by Brian

Gabe

Hollywood: Narc

Unfortunately for me from time to time I still see my Nar and I begin to notice her mannerisms seem fake or as if she trying to fit in, my question is this, do they all act in such a way, or is it because I've seen the real her? *I also seen her talking to a you...

Views: 111 Replies: 7

Last Post: May 6, 2014 12:22pm
by Gabe

Hey

Question for a Narc expert

Why are narcs always the life of the party? People are always so drawn to them and everyone always thinks they're so much fun to be around. Narcs have this magnetic force to people unaware they're a wolf in sheep's clothing. Everyone loves my ex-N and thinks she's so...

Views: 156 Replies: 3

Last Post: May 6, 2014 10:57am
by beentheredonetha...

Chad

Worth the fight

The basics. 4 years together. 3 young children. Had our ups and downs. I'm 36 she's 25. Both come from a rough relationship past. Most of the time was good both emotionally and physically. She has gone through a lot of pain from different medical reasons. Back pain,...

Views: 108 Replies: 1

Last Post: May 5, 2014 12:01am
by Jack the younger

CHUMP

Life with crazy is like....

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2616064/Hilarious-moment-squirrel-attacks-man-wanted-selfie-it.html And we should not stigmatize them......they bring that on themselves. Straighten up and fly right if they want respect.

Views: 82 Replies: 0

Last Post: Apr 29, 2014 9:53pm
by CHUMP

HealingWell

30 months of hell

Guys: From time to time, I have viewed your stories and have been touched by what I've read. For the last 30 months, I have been up against a narcissistic ex-wife who I can only define as an impostor to how we should feel as human beings. What's more - she is co...

Views: 142 Replies: 2

Last Post: Apr 29, 2014 7:02am
by HealingWell

Lee Roy

Strange repeated behaviour of wanting you then dropping you

Be careful. I was with a girl 3 years. We broke up 6 months ago, 3 months ago she got with someone else. The whole time she would text and call me saying she misses me and wants to see me, every time I would because I loved her and missed her too. I'd take her out an...

Views: 135 Replies: 2

Last Post: Apr 28, 2014 9:46am
by Jack the younger

CHUMP

they just don't get it.....

http://www.avoiceformen.com/women/okay-mgtow-i-get-it-now-if-this-is-the-option-id-pass-too/ I remember so fondly when I couldn't walk into a place without running into 9 guys that she'd fkd!

Views: 144 Replies: 4

Last Post: Apr 24, 2014 7:36pm
by Mark (upper case...

Deckard

Got an "Apology" Letter in the Mail from My NP after NC

So I broke up with my ExNP about a month ago after a 5 month relationship, and have maintained “No Contact" since. I am still feeling pretty terrible but I was moving on. But last week I got a 4 page single spaced (10pt Arial font) letter from her in the mail &...

Views: 289 Replies: 14

Last Post: Apr 22, 2014 3:03pm
by mark

mark

a good video for abused men

http://www.avoiceformen.com/hangouts/going-mental-say-goodbye-to-crazy/

Views: 93 Replies: 0

Last Post: Apr 22, 2014 2:58pm
by mark

Sirius

12 years and 4 months with a Narc "steady" - 7 weeks ago broke off

Hello folks, Greetings. My name is E....TCV... I am 41yo from Malaysia. I broke up with my ex of 12 years and 4 months 7 weeks ago. For the last 24 hours, the word Narcissist was just intriduced into my life and now i see a clear picture of it. I have had several phy...

Views: 106 Replies: 2

Last Post: Apr 22, 2014 4:28am
by Sirius