SUPPORT FOR HETEROSEXUAL MEN WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED AT THE HANDS OF WOMEN ! ( EMOTIONALLY, PHYSCIALLY, FINANCIALLY, OR OTHERWISE ) AND THE DISCUSSION OF PERSONALITY DISORDERS AS IT HAS BECOME INCREASINGLY DIFFICULT FOR US TO GET HELP

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What should I do about my ex? NC for 7 months with seeds of doubt in my mind... Help please?

I have only had 1 gf, but I am terrified of another relationship after this, I thank you in advance. "Ex" was my best friend for 1.5 years and we talked everyday and I basically became another member of her family. When I met her, we became closer than we had with an...

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Last Post: Sep 23, 2013 3:14am
by Paul

tim

just left my wife 2nd time

i just left my wife again. the abuse is happening all over again. i know i had to leave, but i have such a powerful feeling of guilt that i abandoned her. i made promises to help her. she kicked me out of the house after i had surgery and flushed all my medications d...

Views: 148 Replies: 7

Last Post: Sep 22, 2013 5:56pm
by Birdboy0

CHUMP

how it works with a psychopath

The Famous Pig A salesman is lost in a rural area and stops at a farm to get directions. As he is talking to the farmer he notices a pig with a wooden leg. "How did the pig get a wooden leg?", he asks the farmer. "Well", says the farmer, "that is a very specia...

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Last Post: Sep 22, 2013 8:22am
by Penelope Purebre...

Chris

How long did it take you to see?

Update, i have initiated no contact with her. Im confident i can do this without caving in to the love i once had for her. Its hard yes, but it has to be done. But my real question is, how long did it take you to see? Honestly for me it was quite some time. I had war...

Views: 115 Replies: 2

Last Post: Sep 22, 2013 5:26am
by The New me

Hey

Fate

I saw my ex-N walking holding hands with the new guy (together for 11 months now) today happy as ever with some of her other friends as well. I've been thinking to myself that if ex is a severe narcissist, then won't "new guy" suffer the devalue/dicard phase eventual...

Views: 171 Replies: 14

Last Post: Sep 21, 2013 9:01pm
by beatentoapulp

Hey

Need help, please-see/read "Fate" post.

Sorry about how it's broken up and long but I need some professional insight.

Views: 72 Replies: 2

Last Post: Sep 21, 2013 7:12pm
by Hey

Jack the younger

Emotional blackmail

Hi guys, Since most of you guys out here are affected by this most of the time, here's a good book that explains about Emotional blackmail : "Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You", by Susan Forward...

Views: 130 Replies: 6

Last Post: Sep 20, 2013 4:23am
by Jack the younger

Beaten To A Pulp

Marriage isn't turning around

So, I tried talking to the wife tonight about the marriage. She says I'm badgering her when I talk to her. She doesn't like it that I have complained about sexual things she said to other guys over the years, how she completed rejected me sexually, and that we neve...

Views: 451 Replies: 32

Last Post: Sep 20, 2013 1:27am
by Birdboy0

CHUMP

bpd with an npd

I actually like to read Shari Schreiber. This makes a lot of sense. http://gettinbetter.com/dance.html

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Last Post: Sep 19, 2013 8:18pm
by CHUMP

Dennitsac

My fiance was abused....

Hi, I'm a woman engaged to a man who was in an emotionally/mentally abusive relationship. I'm looking for some understanding behind the whole thing and hopefully someone here can give me some insight/suggestions.... Well the background: Him and I met working...

Views: 101 Replies: 2

Last Post: Sep 19, 2013 7:46pm
by dennitsa

beatentoapulp

Where's Paul?

Has anyone heard from him?

Views: 60 Replies: 1

Last Post: Sep 19, 2013 6:19pm
by CHUMP

Burbank

A few lessons from an escapee

I figured it'd be good value if I shared my recent experience of leaving a long-term NPD/BPD. Here are a few lessons I learned the hard way which hopefully you can avoid if and when you realise that YOU are worth fighting for: 1. Nice guys finish last It cut me u...

Views: 106 Replies: 1

Last Post: Sep 19, 2013 4:21pm
by beatentoapulp

Chris

Lost myself in the midst of the madness.

Guys, sometimes i feel like i totally lost myself. I remember there was a time in my life before this woman, that i was a happy, funny, fun loving guy that everyone loved to be around. Now i feel like i lost some respect from friends, family, and even myself. Its a h...

Views: 165 Replies: 9

Last Post: Sep 19, 2013 9:54am
by The New Me

Joe

My experiance...

From the very begenning I have always been the nicer guy. And always told I was a nice guy. Most of my relationships ended being told I was too nice. I ended up starting with a woman that manipulated me and have been seeking girls eversense and getting hurt everytim...

Views: 117 Replies: 4

Last Post: Sep 19, 2013 6:49am
by MIke@SacTown

BeatenToAPulp

I Have To Ask This Question

Okay guys, things are getting tiring here. I have to admit. So, my wife says she going someplace and will pick up some food and be home at a certain time. She comes home an hour later. Now, normally I never would question her. But, I have been questioned ove...

Views: 84 Replies: 5

Last Post: Sep 19, 2013 3:43am
by The New Me

CHUMP

why they never say "SORRY"

Found this in my notebook. Wish I had noted the source. True none the less. " No matter what, you will never get a genuine psychopath to say 'sorry' directly to the person they damaged, ever. They will go to absolutely extraordinary lengths to not give an apolog...

Views: 278 Replies: 16

Last Post: Sep 18, 2013 7:24pm
by CHUMP

Bill Donnely

Becoming Whole means seeing how you are damaged

It has been almost 3 months since I left my ex, and 2 years since I realized my mom was a narcissist and the implications implicit to this fact. I haven't watched pornography in about three weeks and have cut way back on smoking weed and drinking alcohol. I exerc...

Views: 82 Replies: 1

Last Post: Sep 18, 2013 2:30pm
by Brian

BeatenToAPulp

Whining

This is something that I didn't notice early on, but my wife whined a great deal. I can't believe that I didn't notice it. In fact, it first came to my attention when the people she did an internship with nicknamed her "Wendy Whiner." Have you guys noticed this?

Views: 54 Replies: 2

Last Post: Sep 17, 2013 5:58pm
by Birdboy0

CHUMP

Lost boys rescue damaged girls

Birdboy was spot on with this one. Got me thinking and I dug deep in my archives to find something I remembered. Always been a Shari Schreiber fan. As she says..... " DAMSELS IN DISTRESS AND YOUR HERO COMPLEX: When the Waif shared tales about former boyfrien...

Views: 114 Replies: 7

Last Post: Sep 17, 2013 1:53pm
by BeatenToAPulp

Hey

Pi$$ed. What to consider?

She used to always tell me she couldn't remember anything from her childhood. (Huge red flag of sociopathy) I spent SO MUCH time away from my family devoted to her in order to make her happy and feel better for 2 years straight. I guess it meant nothing to her and d...

Views: 368 Replies: 53

Last Post: Sep 17, 2013 5:44am
by The New Me

Chris

Questions and realizations.

Do they divert and interchange personalitys? - ive learned almost every interest or new thing she likes she learned off somone else, her musical interests were learned alot from me, the movies she watches, even some of her clothing, these things she disliked about me...

Views: 50 Replies: 1

Last Post: Sep 17, 2013 4:30am
by CHUMP

Gabe

Complete Healing

I might lose some respect with you guys for doing this, but for me it completed my healing process and help me to really move forward with my life. Yesterdays I was compelled to call my ex Nar after setting firm boundaries of no calling, no texting, and no hanging...

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Last Post: Sep 16, 2013 7:41pm
by Gabe

Mark (upper case)

Dating Web Sites like POF, MATCH, ZOOSK

I met my little narky sociopath on pof.com which I believe I mentioned in my first post. And was wondering how many of you are using dating sites for possible dates/dating you know what I'm saying. Anyone else find women's profiles always include "I love to tra...

Views: 209 Replies: 15

Last Post: Sep 16, 2013 2:59pm
by Charles

Chris

Still having trouble healing.

Guys. I cant help it. I feel destroyed inside. I hold a heavy pain in my heart i really cannot overcome. Its hard knowing this woman did this to me and is getting away with it. Its hard knowing she regards me as nobody now since new guys came her way. I hate it! I re...

Views: 83 Replies: 6

Last Post: Sep 15, 2013 8:02am
by BeatenToAPulp

Alex

what is happening?

the other day i looked on facebook and an old army buddy of mine posted that he was shaving his legs and pits. i told him that its not something men do, and immediatly some woman jumped in and started to defend his actions. i looked at her profile and pictures and th...

Views: 65 Replies: 3

Last Post: Sep 15, 2013 5:59am
by The New Me

Chris

Is she waiting for contact? Wild story you guys must read.

My ex tried keeping me as a "friend". This was the other day. We basically agreed to no more friendship, since the strings attached are strong, in my case more so i believe, since I was the one who loved her unconditionally, yet she did what she did and its hard for...

Views: 142 Replies: 8

Last Post: Sep 14, 2013 4:52pm
by eyeswideopen.

ginger(lowercase)

New here

I just want to start out by thanking Mark(uppercase) great friend for years now. No I am not a male and no I don't have a narc for boyfriend or husband, never been married and no bf, but I have a sister that fits that category. I am just intrigued by reading about...

Views: 68 Replies: 3

Last Post: Sep 14, 2013 3:22am
by ginger(lowercase...

Beentheredonethat

Huge setback, please support me guys

Most of you know me or have read my posts by now. I've truly been blessed by so many of you and value this group of men tremendously. I come to you now empty. I'm very well educated on NPD, but realize that sometimes I just don't have the answers and have to reach ou...

Views: 155 Replies: 13

Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 2:20pm
by eyeswideopen

mark

what happens when men get abused?

guys somethings i want to point out a lot of people dont care about abused men a lot of people dont believe that men are abused VERY OFTEN IF THE POLICE SHOW UP,REGARDLESS OF THE SITUATION,ITS THE MAN WHO GOES TO JAIL James had a video about this and i...

Views: 62 Replies: 4

Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 2:12pm
by eyeswideopen

Mark (upper case)

Ever think about who is lurking in the shadows

You guys ever wonder how many narcs we are helping to build another hollow person/new entity by reading our post's. Food for thought. PEACE!!!!

Views: 218 Replies: 32

Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 1:32pm
by mark

BeatenToAPulp

NPD Women=Dessert

NPD Women are like a rich dessert. Having one occasionally after a meal is a nice treat. They can stroke your ego, turn your bedroom into a gymnastics center, and be a fun time on the town. But, everything goes wrong when you try to live meal after meal on the NPD...

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Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 1:01pm
by CHUMP

BeatenToAPulp

Headaches?

Did your narc have constant headaches? My wife pops ibuprofen and Tylenol like there is no tomorrow?

Views: 42 Replies: 3

Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 12:57pm
by CHUMP

BeatenToAPulp

Unsustainable Sex

I've seen it mentioned on here that all the sex that NPD's/BPD's shower us with early on is unsustainable. I've figured out that the reason it is unsustainable is because it means nothing to them except as a means to exploit someone. It is not based on caring, love...

Views: 91 Replies: 5

Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 12:51pm
by CHUMP

The New Me

Look out! It's a Nice Guy! DESTROY HIM!!

Go on poke the hornets nest http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9XDb0nxSO4

Views: 129 Replies: 4

Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 12:18pm
by mark

CHUMP

why we fall....

http://www.details.com/sex-relationships/dating-and-cheating/200803/why-cant-you-resist-this-woman

Views: 121 Replies: 6

Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 10:01am
by CHUMP

CHUMP

been looking for this one for a while. really sets things straight.

We got guys here that are new and still shaking off disbelief......that can kill you and will. Others have been around a while and have some situ understanding. This was one of the best articles I read.....really helped me in shaking off the crazy. http://gettin...

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Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 1:06am
by CHUMP

CHUMP

very good article. must read

http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/02/15/why-psychopathy-is-incurable-nothing-can-fix-a-psychopath/

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Last Post: Sep 13, 2013 12:22am
by CHUMP

Jack

Getting to know my narc's weak spots ( and use it )

Hi all, Have to say, so glad I found this site, I thought I was going nuts with my (soon to be ex-) wife. Same issue as most of you guys, married a nice Asian lady, and all was fine for about 5 years, until the kids started coming. Though she did have strange i...

Views: 202 Replies: 18

Last Post: Sep 12, 2013 11:20pm
by Jack the younger

Alex

Progress?

today at work i met with an old fellow classmate of mine. shes a lovely girl and its obvious she likes/wants me but she shows it in the strangest ways. back in the day she would flirt with me and play footsies in class but when i asked her out she completly turned me...

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Last Post: Sep 12, 2013 6:05pm
by Alex

The New Me

Anyone for Coffee ? or even a real mans drink.

I'm bugging out of the damp and cold UK and decamping to the Palm Desert CA area in October for 3 weeks hols- any guys in that area - be good to put faces to names. First beer on me. No - no coffees - get my drift lol )

Views: 51 Replies: 6

Last Post: Sep 12, 2013 1:13pm
by The New Me

CHUMP

thoughts?

http://www.foxnews.mobi/quickPage.html?page=22995&external=2318479.proteus.fma

Views: 62 Replies: 1

Last Post: Sep 12, 2013 3:51am
by CHUMP

Chris

Holy Sh*t. She admitted to it all.....

Yep. My ex contacted me out of the blue and opened up the hugest fireball I ever heard come out of her mouth. The admittance! She admitted she feels emotionally terrified if people get too close to her, so she pushes them away because if anyone knew the real her they...

Views: 159 Replies: 10

Last Post: Sep 11, 2013 10:05am
by Gabe

Jack the younger

How to recover?

Hi guys, Just wanted to know and share what works for you guys to get out of the depression caused by your narc, and rebuild your self-esteem. I am at the point where I wake up every morning at 3 or 4 am, and my brain starts churning on all the issues in my lif...

Views: 43 Replies: 3

Last Post: Sep 11, 2013 9:57am
by Mark (upper case...

Gabe

How are they loser?

How are Nars, users, player, etc...... loser? They seem to move around looking for better supply or victims? And normally attractive looking people (not to be shallow, I'm just saying)

Views: 57 Replies: 6

Last Post: Sep 11, 2013 9:48am
by Gabe

startrek

Recovering

Back in May, I discovered this website and made my first post. I knew then that I had to work on myself. My current status is that I've improved a lot since then. I no longer feel guilty when my WITCH (my wife) accuses me of things and takes other abusive actions....

Views: 32 Replies: 1

Last Post: Sep 11, 2013 7:26am
by Jack the younger

60Panhead

My NEW problem...answers and questions

Hi,..fellow abusees. I have posted on here a year or so ago, and to summarize my "Narc" did everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING to the LETTER..VERBATIM, of ALL of Jame's video, including following me around with her Mother, and then bringing men into MY bar which is...

Views: 278 Replies: 27

Last Post: Sep 11, 2013 12:06am
by eyeswideopen.

CHUMP

great read......must read

I have seen most of this in my experience. http://www.primals.org/articles/hannig03.html

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Last Post: Sep 10, 2013 11:15pm
by CHUMP

CHUMP

Pirates we shall be....

http://www.greaseman.org/sounds/nathans/Power_v_sail_boaters-women.mp3

Views: 35 Replies: 0

Last Post: Sep 10, 2013 9:11pm
by CHUMP

Mark (upper case)

check this out, this is what we are dealing with

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kRikFf7rSeI

Views: 90 Replies: 2

Last Post: Sep 10, 2013 3:36pm
by startrek

startrek

Does your abuser do this?

My wife has experienced what I consider a minimum of bad experiences with my family, yet she claims massive abuse against her. The smallest incidents upset her greatly to the point that she can be friends with someone and they do or say one thing that upsets her and...

Views: 160 Replies: 17

Last Post: Sep 10, 2013 1:01pm
by Mark (upper case...